There’s the goin out goths
And the never leave they house goths
Don’t assume everyone goes to clubs concerts or festivals some ppl stay at home n read or draw n don’t particularly listen to music much because they like being quiet while alone. I find goth puts a lot of emphasis on being a part of a scene but like I’mma stay my ass in my coffin thank u very much
I know the feel though im a little bit of both. Between being an introvert and having BPD going out can be overwhelming for me so i go to clubs and goth events only a small handful of times in a year. I also dont listen to music a whole lot. Even though i love goth music im more of a visual person and too much noise or too loud noise bothers me and really stresses me out so i really have to be in the mood to listen to it. Most of the time i prefer silence. Unfortunately a lot of other goths dont understand this and many of the gother than thou types think the more you go to clubs and concerts and the more music you listen to the more goth you are and thats really lame.